Stoic but suffering

May 12, 2016

This is so much more harrowing than I expected. I had gotten the idea that surgery for spinal stenosis meant a couple days in the hospital & then he'd be dancing like a teenager.

He's been there since Monday & no discharge in sight.

I'm happy to sit with him all day. It's like a little honeymoon to be alone together in his hospital bubble. He can't go out so why would I. I hate leaving, I hate being home without him. Last night I thought I heard him coming into our apartment & was so happy.

I remember the bad three months when he was in Bellevue & then rehab. While NYU Medical is a much better hospital, one difference makes it harder: last time I had insurance & legal things to get worked up about & deal with. Now everything is taken care of so I find myself anxious about his healing process: too slow? why the low b.p.? why are his incision sites still draining? Why haven't I seen the doctor?

Is this pain worth it?


  1. May 13, 2016 5:02 PM EDT
    I feel so bad for him . I can see the pain on his face. I hope his healing goes well and he gets to go home soon. I will keep you two in my thoughts.
    - becky
  2. May 14, 2016 7:58 AM EDT
    oh honey, thank you.
    - xoxo
  3. June 4, 2016 8:20 PM EDT
    Is this my old friend Johnny Stanton? if so, send him my love.
    Tom Veitch
    - Anonymous
  4. June 5, 2016 6:47 AM EDT
    Oh hey Tom—yep, that Johnny Stanton indeed. How are you? He's in rehab now & MUCH better.
    - Elinor Nauen
  5. June 5, 2016 12:07 PM EDT
    Hi Elinor ~ I'm doing fine and I'm glad to hear that Johnny is on the upside. My wife Martha and I live in Arlington, Vermont. Both getting creaky (at 74) but spirits still high. Where are Johnny's boys?
    love, Tom
    - Tom Veitch
  6. July 3, 2016 10:33 AM EDT
    Hi Tom, Sorry not to write back sooner. Sean is on the UWS (3 kids of his own) & Sam is in NJ (2 kids). Tara lives in Queens (1). He's home & so much better—soon he'll be his old vigorous self. I remember visiting you guys in VT many years if not decades ago. You can email Johnny if you want—JohnnyStanton43 @ gmail
    - Elinor Nauen