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My sister Varda sent me this birthday card. We find & send cards all year round, unconnected to our actual birthdate, whenever we find one that fits our theme, which is a (loose) variant of "you're so great because you're related to me."
When I called to laugh about it, she got unexpectedly poignant—when we're dead, she said, no one will know about this.
No one knows now, that's what makes it special. That only 2 people find something funny (or meaningful) is part of how it connects them. If all those connections were visible, the world would be full of, y'know, fireworks & rainbows & unicorns. And it's still just between the 2 of us even if we tell everyone.
I assume everyone with a family or a deep friendship must have inside jokes like this. Right?
When I called to laugh about it, she got unexpectedly poignant—when we're dead, she said, no one will know about this.
No one knows now, that's what makes it special. That only 2 people find something funny (or meaningful) is part of how it connects them. If all those connections were visible, the world would be full of, y'know, fireworks & rainbows & unicorns. And it's still just between the 2 of us even if we tell everyone.
I assume everyone with a family or a deep friendship must have inside jokes like this. Right?